25 8 / 2012
Nobody tries to take away your right to use a condom. Nobody hammers into your head that you should feel guilty and shameful about preventing your gift-from-God sperm from fertilizing an egg and thus ensuring the birth of a beautiful child. No politician tells you using condoms makes you a slut. Nobody bombs a convenience store that sells condoms, threatens people who put condom vending machines in areas, or attacks politicians who support condom use.
I took a picture of a condom vending machine in a prominent area while I was in Tuscany a few weeks ago. Tuscany, which is in Italy, the most Catholic country in the world. You could buy condoms. Cheap. In the open. No muss, no fuss.
Male privilege is a hell of a drug.
27 7 / 2010
"In the pantheon of TV mothers, Betty Draper may be the worst. She doesn’t seem to like her children at all and in fact seems determined to make them non-entities in their own home. (We haven’t even mentioned the CONSTANT drinking and smoking around her kids — and while pregnant. I also was shocked by scenes of her dieting while pregnant.)"
I had to roll my eyes at this. Many women drank and smoked through their pregnancies in the 60s. It wasn’t uncommon or scandalous, and that’s hardly a sign that a mother didn’t care about her children, at least not at the time. A lot of moms did the same.
Seriously. So ridiculous. I think my grandma smoked a pack a day (or more) while pregnant with all of her kids and gained almost no weight. Why don’t people seem to understand that there were different standards back then? Different attitudes towards health issues and the like. My mom told me that doctors used to lecture pregnant women all the time about how they should be watching their weight.
Different mores and standards back then, absolutely. As for Betty not seeming to like her kids, add a laugh track to her lines about Sally and she’s a proto-Dooce hip, wry anti-mommy mom that are just so effing cool to be these days.